When i got into undergraduate course and i found out a few of my classmates didn't really know how.. well.. we make babies. I was a little shocked.I after all had known about it when i was in the 7th grade.Then i went into Masters and i realized that i was in some kind of time warp. At least partially.
Most of what i knew about sex then came from other friends and i got a lot of it from reading Women's Era personals.Well, i did say i was in the 7th grade.
Anyway, all that got me thinking. We Indians are mostly prudish. The word 'Sex' brings about scandalized gasps in most of the households. My mother's sex education amounted to saying.." err, Meghna? do you know??..." about two years back. Therefore its not surprising that most of us Indians don't think child sexual abuse happens in India.But it does and i believe it's quite rampant. I had heard of Child sexual abuse. I believed it happened in India. But like most of them i thought it was rare that it happened here. I thought these people were generally from the lower classes and not amongst the middle class to which i belong.
I soon learnt i was wrong. About two people i know personally have been abused sexually when they were children. And one of my friend knows another. These people were sexually abused by close relatives.Uncles, Family friends, Cousins even father in some instances.When these kids realized that there was something wrong and told their parents, they were said to be lying. A strong word for a kid who has just been raped.Parents or the elders brush off the issue and behave normally and the kid has to grow up seeing their rapists walk around free all their lives.
Why are men who rape adults taken more seriously then those who sexually abuse children? Don't the children deserve to be taken seriously?
Each of these people i know have been affected adversely. They look normal, yes, but these girls, are mentally disturbed. They grow with a shadow of that experience and the disgust at the freedom that their abusers enjoy.
Gives the inadequate laws of the Indian system. Stringent laws are the call for the day.
is a good article.
Awareness has to be created and children have to be taught the good touch
from the bad when they are young.Lets try to make the world a better place for
our children.
Hey nice write up. I have always felt that one doesn't know what ingredients that go in the upbringing of a child create what characteristics/effects in the grown up. So, I think its very important that a child gets the right kind of upbringing shielded from horrible things like sexual abuse.
ReplyDeleteYes.And thank you. I think the upbringing is important too. I know a few guys who are so screwed in their head cuase their family was in shambles.
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